Caroline Adams of New York City was flattered when Kent, an attractive man from her weekly meditation class, obtained her telephone number from the meditation center database and reached out to her by text message, but their ensuing sexual banter caused her to suspect that her fellow seeker's intentions might be less than wholesome.
"Nothing big, just a few things that struck me as a little odd," said Caroline. "For instance, I told him that I was flexible in terms of getting together, and he said, 'Ooh, I like flexible.' And when I told him that I was really enjoying the sensation of focusing on my breath, he said, 'Hot. What other sensations do you enjoy?'"
Caroline added that Kent's recent text message suggesting that they practice lovingkindness or "metta" meditation together, naked, and the images he sent of tantric sexual positions, did little to alleviate her concerns. At this point, however, she is doing her best not to jump to any unfair conclusions - and to avoid unconsciously projecting her own unwholesome mind states onto Kent.
"That's a real danger," she noted. "Especially since texting is so easily misinterpreted."
And, so, in the interest of taking their communications beyond ambiguous text messaging, Caroline gladly accepted Kent's invitation to come back to his apartment with him after their next mindfulness class in order for them to be in the moment together.
"It was reassuring to hear that we're on the same page," she said, appreciating Kent's dedication to his Buddhist practice. "Regardless of how things play out, it's wonderful just to be on the path with him."