Despite some minor shortcomings pointed out by women he's dated, Charlie Murphy of Nashville, Tennessee, feels that he has real potential for being a great catch.
"Once I fully quit smoking and start getting to the gym on a regular basis, I'll be in pretty good shape," said Charlie. "Cutting back on the drive-throughs and fast food is something I'm also working on. One thing at a time, though."
Of course, there's not exactly "one thing" that Charlie is proactively working on improving right now, but he does plan to sit down with himself at some point and sort out his various priorities - which will likely include finding a career of some sort, ideally in music.
"But I think the worst thing would be to try to take on too much all at once," said Charlie. "Then I'd run the risk of feeling overwhelmed and giving up entirely."
As it is, Charlie is allowing himself to take things day by day, and, most of all, to love himself unconditionally, regardless of what he's drinking, smoking, putting in his body, or viewing on his computer. "The right answers will come as long as I don't push it. And I know the right person won't try to change me, but will love me for all that I might someday be. And honestly, anyone who doesn't, isn't someone I want to be with anyway."
He smiled and shook his head. "Progress, not perfection. I'm just really grateful for how far I've come already."