Some say we all have a dash of narcissistic trait, but shrinks do not classify us as psychopaths; we have fallen short of the standard threshold of personality disorder!
Anyway, the signs and symptoms of legit narcissism are too many: seductive, critical of others, cruel, envious, no sense of humor, hypersensitive to criticism, religious, authoritarian, amoral, contemptuous, feel entitled, grandiose, hate to live alone, impulsive, naïve, secretive, self-contradictory, weird sense of time, stingy and many more.
Perhaps we think a combination of all the traits turns a person a narcissist. Practically, it seems that each single trait can hurt us all badly. Let us pick one item out of the long list: 'stinginess'. The reason I choose 'stinginess' is because we don't need the expertise of a shrink to detect it.
Of course, we do not care if a stranger is stingy or not. Naturally, we do not care if such a person refuses to give his children any pocket money. However, we do care when it infringes on our interests.
Let me give you an example of such a person: Rudy is 35 years old, 170 centimeters tall, 45 kilograms, canonically vs. lawfully, married to a woman of 60, i. e. 25 years his senior! The 60-year old female has 2 sons, 30 and 28, from her previous registered marriage. She, at least, owns three flats. Her divorce took place in 1987, i. e. when Rudy was 11 years old and she, 36 years. I believe she had to wait, at least, 4 years for the kid to reach puberty. Well, she is a college graduate!
In Rudy's homeland, a certificate of identity is a legal document that shows four phases of an individual's vital statistics; birth, marriage, children and death. Due to widespread corruption, one can apply for a new identity document, leaving out previous marriages or children, thus impersonating a virgin bachelor! Therefore, Rudy's certificate of identity is blank!
In such a 'Like man, Like state', every morning Rudy leaves home to look for a new hunt. From the hour he leaves home until he returns, he applies all known schemes to cheat innocent people. If you do business with him, you end up with nothing but a backbreaking work. It doesn't matter how smart you are. He'll find a way to trick you.
Rudy metaphorically lives in a vast safari-like penitentiary run by a gang of United Commies-Clergies Orwellian Regime, an ideal place for bloodsuckers and leeches to operate.
We don't know exactly when Rudy and his 60-year old partner chose to shack up, but we can guess that the 60-year old woman is now experiencing her postmenstrual syndrome: Stomach upsets, swelling, diarrhea, constipation, headaches, anxiety, depression, fatigue, trouble sleeping, irritability, mood swings …
Can Rudy touch or kiss her? What is Rudy's scheme? Where do the 30-&-28- year old sons stand? Will they stand idle and let Rudy take away their future inheritance? In brief: we do not need to be afraid of narcissists, serial killers and the like. We are already in the den of vipers.