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Commiserations, Smurfette.

Losing one child is horrendous enough. Losing two unimaginable.

A few of us on this forum have talked previously about our child loss experiences.

J-Man lost a daughter just before Christmas - 13 or 14 years ago if I recall his post correctly.

I lost a baby boy 30-odd years ago.

Still seems like yesterday.

Wasn't aware of that QM

Commiserations.

When I lost my son I felt like the whole world was caving in on me.

But you learn to cope.

You can't forget, but you do cope.

Sincerely

Skoob.

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Understandable becca.

We all have our traumas.

It can be hard.

I sincerely hope that coming to the Spoof injects a little sunshine into your life.

Take care

Skoob.

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it does indeed!

thank you as always for the good thoughts.

becca

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Quote: queen mudder

Commiserations, Smurfette.

Losing one child is horrendous enough. Losing two unimaginable.

A few of us on this forum have talked previously about our child loss experiences.

J-Man lost a daughter just before Christmas - 13 or 14 years ago if I recall his post correctly.

I lost a baby boy 30-odd years ago.

Still seems like yesterday.

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i am sorry for your loss; losing a child creates a void from which you never recover ......... you always live with the "what if's"........

i am terrified of forgetting the sound of josh's voice or the way his eyes sparkled when he was up to mischief or how silky his hair felt when i brushed it out of his eyes..........i need him so......

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Wasn't aware of that QM

Commiserations.

When I lost my son I felt like the whole world was caving in on me.

But you learn to cope.

You can't forget, but you do cope.

Sincerely

Skoob.

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i am so sorry that you have lost a son too.....

josh was everything to me; i am so very weak and so flawed and he was my rock

i am so lost without him

Skoob: condolences to you too. Didn't know before about your boy.

Guess there's a few of us, then, on this site who've been put through it.

Smurfette: phew!
I expect the art of 'hang in there, girl' must be like second nature given what you have experienced. Sure sounds like you've had the toughest tests anyone could ever imagine.

I hope you get through this tough anniversary time.


qm

I don't wish to appear insensitive here, but maybe we should keep this stuff personal.

I understand absolutely the sense of loss.

If anyone wants to communicate and share experiences, it's probably better to do it via personal messaging.

My door is always open, so to speak.

With the greatest respect

Skoob.

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Quote: queen mudder

Skoob: condolences to you too. Didn't know before about your boy.

Guess there's a few of us, then, on this site who've been put through it.

Smurfette: phew!
I expect the art of 'hang in there, girl' must be like second nature given what you have experienced. Sure sounds like you've had the toughest tests anyone could ever imagine.

I hope you get through this tough anniversary time.


qm

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thank you, qm!

i've been through the grinder so many times, they've given me my own monkey!

in addition to losing josh and jennifer, i buried two husbands while still in my thirties; one being the love of my life and the other a total bastard, but still the father of my two youngest sons

i also had a tubal pregnancy that went to 10 1/2 weeks and very nearly killed me in 1998. luckily, i had a wonderful priest who sat and prayed with me the entire night and held little Dakota in the palm of his hand and baptized him when he was "born" and gave him a mass of christian burial.

my son jason just lost a child, lee, the same way this year on st. patrick's day; they are buried mere feet from each other.it was the first st.patrick's day i failed to prepare my corned beef and cabbage.

between my history of being abused and my health issues, the hits just keep on coming!

"Ah. Well... I attended Juilliard... I'm a graduate of the Harvard business school. I travel quite extensively. I lived through the Black Plague and had a pretty good time during that. I've seen the EXORCIST ABOUT A HUNDRED AND SIXTY-SEVEN TIMES, AND IT KEEPS GETTING FUNNIER EVERY SINGLE TIME I SEE IT... NOT TO MENTION THE FACT THAT YOU'RE TALKING TO A DEAD GUY... NOW WHAT DO YOU THINK?!? You think I'm qualified?" quoth the immortal beetle juice!

if i hadn't developed a dark sense of humor, i would have checked out quite some time ago.

becca

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Quote: Skoob1999

I don't wish to appear insensitive here, but maybe we should keep this stuff personal.

I understand absolutely the sense of loss.

If anyone wants to communicate and share experiences, it's probably better to do it via personal messaging.

My door is always open, so to speak.

With the greatest respect

Skoob.

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sorry, skoob!

sometimes misery loves company, other times it just wants to sit in the corner and pull the wings off of unsuspecting creatures!

let us now speak of more pleasant things, such as mocking famous figures and the like!

whaaaaaaaaaa haaaaaaaaaa ha ha ha ha!



(loosely interpreted as: i am fine; made it through another year, and i'm ready to kick butt and chew bubble gum and i'm all out of bubble gum!)

becca

Wish I'd run out of beer Becca.

But I haven't yet.

I just know I'm going to feel like shit in the morning.

Where were you at the Gosport Submarine Museum?

I waited. I even hedged my bets and invited Madam Bitters too. One no-show is bad enough, but two is devastating. I can't really be that ugly.

Can I?

Regards

Skoob.

If anyone has lost anybody dear to them, my condolonces especially if a child was involved!!

So that's over lets cheer it up!

My fav things, listening to a Joy Division/Killing joke CD whilst spoofing or bantering with you mob!

And the obvious, my missus is upstairs, so I can mention that!

And the smile on my brand new Grandaughters lovely face, 3 months old, super!

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Wish I'd run out of beer Becca.

But I haven't yet.

I just know I'm going to feel like shit in the morning.

Where were you at the Gosport Submarine Museum?

I waited. I even hedged my bets and invited Madam Bitters too. One no-show is bad enough, but two is devastating. I can't really be that ugly.

Can I?

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i think you're absolutely ADORABLE, mr.skooby dooby doo!

alas, i am catholic, and should i dally with a married man, i would be forced into the confessional with fr. frank, and no doubt he would give me some dreadful penance involving me being on my knees for extended periods!

my drink of choice is rum; never, ever, get involved with demon rum if you haven't yet....

it will make you beg, borrow, cheat and steal, turn your eyes and skin yellow and kill you if you give it half a chance.....

i speak from experience

becca

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If anyone has lost anybody dear to them, my condolonces especially if a child was involved!!

So that's over lets cheer it up!

My fav things, listening to a Joy Division/Killing joke CD whilst spoofing or bantering with you mob!

And the obvious, my missus is upstairs, so I can mention that!

And the smile on my brand new Grandaughters lovely face, 3 months old, super!

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awwww...

congrads, j.o.!

i have 4 grands all told; 3 blonds and a redhead

i have two gorgeous grandsons, dominick and zacchary, ages 5 and 3

and two perfect little princess granddaughters, anabelle and jenna, ages 4 and 1

boys on the east coast (florida)

anabelle on the west coat (cali)

and jenna's stuck in the middle with me (oklahoma)

i bet i know which one will grow up to be warped like me!

rotflmao!

becca

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Quote: Jaggedone

If anyone has lost anybody dear to them, my condolonces especially if a child was involved!!

So that's over lets cheer it up!

My fav things, listening to a Joy Division/Killing joke CD whilst spoofing or bantering with you mob!

And the obvious, my missus is upstairs, so I can mention that!

And the smile on my brand new Grandaughters lovely face, 3 months old, super!

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JO

You never disappoint.

I rememember my eldest grandchild staying with us when she was 3 months old. Her face lit up when I took her up to the supermarket, with the lights and the colours.

She's almost as tall as I am these days.

But she's still a star.

In my eyes anyway.

Boo hoo hoo

Skoob

All emotional.

(All pissed more like...)

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Quote: Skoob1999

Wish I'd run out of beer Becca.

But I haven't yet.

I just know I'm going to feel like shit in the morning.

Where were you at the Gosport Submarine Museum?

I waited. I even hedged my bets and invited Madam Bitters too. One no-show is bad enough, but two is devastating. I can't really be that ugly.

Can I?

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i think you're absolutely ADORABLE, mr.skooby dooby doo!

alas, i am catholic, and should i dally with a married man, i would be forced into the confessional with fr. frank, and no doubt he would give me some dreadful penance involving me being on my knees for extended periods!

my drink of choice is rum; never, ever, get involved with demon rum if you haven't yet....

it will make you beg, borrow, cheat and steal, turn your eyes and skin yellow and kill you if you give it half a chance.....

i speak from experience

becca

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So becca...

Fancy a pint?

Regards

Skoob.

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Quote: Jaggedone

If anyone has lost anybody dear to them, my condolonces especially if a child was involved!!

So that's over lets cheer it up!

My fav things, listening to a Joy Division/Killing joke CD whilst spoofing or bantering with you mob!

And the obvious, my missus is upstairs, so I can mention that!

And the smile on my brand new Grandaughters lovely face, 3 months old, super!

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JO

You never disappoint.

I rememember my eldest grandchild staying with us when she was 3 months old. Her face lit up when I took her up to the supermarket, with the lights and the colours.

She's almost as tall as I am these days.

But she's still a star.

In my eyes anyway.

Boo hoo hoo

Skoob

All emotional.

(All pissed more like...)

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No Skoob, you're not pissed mate just telling it like it is!

The simple things, that's what it's all about, we missed the boat centuries ago, but here on the Spoof there's enough of us still rocking it!

Blowing my own trumpet here, did you read my "God gives the spoof exclusive interview" bit over on MAGAZINE, maybe it's worth a read between the lines!

Greetings mate, it's a pleasure, always!

I'll do that right now and get back to you when I've read it.

Always a pleasure JO mate.

You mad bastard

Your fellow red

Skoob.

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Quote: Skoob1999

Wish I'd run out of beer Becca.

But I haven't yet.

I just know I'm going to feel like shit in the morning.

Where were you at the Gosport Submarine Museum?

I waited. I even hedged my bets and invited Madam Bitters too. One no-show is bad enough, but two is devastating. I can't really be that ugly.

Can I?

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i think you're absolutely ADORABLE, mr.skooby dooby doo!

alas, i am catholic, and should i dally with a married man, i would be forced into the confessional with fr. frank, and no doubt he would give me some dreadful penance involving me being on my knees for extended periods!

my drink of choice is rum; never, ever, get involved with demon rum if you haven't yet....

it will make you beg, borrow, cheat and steal, turn your eyes and skin yellow and kill you if you give it half a chance.....

i speak from experience

becca

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So becca...

Fancy a pint?

Regards

Skoob.

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actually, i am under doctor's orders to imbibe only distilled spirits, as i am severely allergic to fermented beverages

no guinness for me!

what a predicament for a person who is half celtic!

good thing my ancestors were involved in the rum trade and sent me in the right direction!

becca

Smurfette (The Blue One) half Celtic, love it, Guiness too!

You can have a pint with Skoob, no prob, he'll keep you entertained, a good-un here, like most of us!

Smurf

I don't drink Guinness, except when somebody gives it to me.

I usually drink the Belgian stuff.

My mammy was Irish (from Dublin) and I am catholic.

Lapsed.

I went to the Vatican with Mrs Skoob and got pissed wet through in a shocking rainstorm. Then some knobhead tried to sell me an umbrella.

The pope didn't invite us in to dry off and have a nice cup of tea.

The bastard!

He can stick his fucking church up his arse!

We went to Windsor one day, me and Mrs Skoob. Did HRH invite us in for a cup of tea and a slice of cake? Bearing in mind that our taxes pay for the sour faced old bag?

Did she fuck!

She wanted us to pay £17.00 each to look around her poxy castle. She can fuck right off.

Cow.

Charmingly

Skoob.

JO

Couldn't find the story you referred to.

Tried a search.

How far back does it go?

There's quite a lot I miss here, because I work long hours, 4 days on, 4 days off.

When I'm at work I barely give the site a glance.

Usually too knackered.

Can you post a link?

Your friend in red

Skoob.

Dear QM

Your kind words are much appreciated.

I would never joke about something like that. It's true. It hurt. It took a lot of getting used to. It's been two years now. I don't know that I'll ever get over it, it was such a waste of precious life, but I'm learning to live with it.

As are other good people who write for this site.

Yourself included.

God bless you QM

Sincerely

Skoob.

As has been said on here, I also lost a child. It was December 23rd of 1994 that I found her dead in her bed. She had a grand mal epileptic seizure in the night time. The autopsy showed that it heated her body temperature to over 127 degrees and this cooked her brain and killed her. She was still flaming hot to the touch when I found her.

Christmas time is always hard for me as all of the family was there that year, but there was no real celebration. I spent Christmas Eve shopping for a casket and cemetary plot. I spent the day after Christmas shopping for a dress to bury my daughter in. The 27th was the funeral.

THe other days of the year that I have it rough are on her birthday (February 7th) and on Father's Day.

You never forget and the pain does lessen over time. Some events, however, just bring it all back to the front again and can push you over the edge mentally.

Today, I look around and see the young women "her age." I wonder if they would be her friends and if she would be wearing those types of clothes. The age of the people that I look at, of course, always ages as she does.

I'll never forget her and I will always love her. When I leave this existence and pass on to the next, hers will be the first face I seek and the first that I kiss.

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As has been said on here, I also lost a child. It was December 23rd of 1994 that I found her dead in her bed. She had a grand mal epileptic seizure in the night time. The autopsy showed that it heated her body temperature to over 127 degrees and this cooked her brain and killed her. She was still flaming hot to the touch when I found her.

Christmas time is always hard for me as all of the family was there that year, but there was no real celebration. I spent Christmas Eve shopping for a casket and cemetary plot. I spent the day after Christmas shopping for a dress to bury my daughter in. The 27th was the funeral.

THe other days of the year that I have it rough are on her birthday (February 7th) and on Father's Day.

You never forget and the pain does lessen over time. Some events, however, just bring it all back to the front again and can push you over the edge mentally.

Today, I look around and see the young women "her age." I wonder if they would be her friends and if she would be wearing those types of clothes. The age of the people that I look at, of course, always ages as she does.

I'll never forget her and I will always love her. When I leave this existence and pass on to the next, hers will be the first face I seek and the first that I kiss.

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i am so sorry, j-man....

i can completely relate to your last paragraph; it is touchingly eloquent.

we know that death is not an end, merely a transition, but that knowledge sure doesn't make goodbyes any easier

christmas time is a rough time to grieve

the love of my life was killed in a traffic accident on thanksgiving day, 1989. our daughter was six months old. we were separated at the time; i was trying desperately to find a way to get him off drugs. i was trying "tough love". we had just sat down to dinner. from the living room, we heard a news update "kelly _________, the first traffic fatality for 1989". thanksgiving has never been the same. so much for tough love. now i tell everyone, if you truly love someone, hold on for dear life and love them as if each moment is your last, for it well could be.

i feel truly fortunate and blessed to have most of my children with me and the memories of those that have gone on ahead.

love lives on.

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JO

Couldn't find the story you referred to.

Tried a search.

How far back does it go?

There's quite a lot I miss here, because I work long hours, 4 days on, 4 days off.

When I'm at work I barely give the site a glance.

Usually too knackered.

Can you post a link?

Your friend in red

Skoob.

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It's in Magazine, shouldn''t be a prob, never mind you can find it also on my site @

www.jaggededgepublications.blogspot.com!

If you wish, see you later!